Friday, July 30, 2010

INFJ

Recently, I've taken the Jung's Personality test on http://similarminds.com
I think it's pretty accurate..

Here are my results!

Introverted (I) 59.38% Extroverted (E) 40.63%
Sensing (S) 50% Intuitive (N) 50%
Feeling (F) 55% Thinking (T) 45%
Judging (J) 61.54% Perceiving (P) 38.46%

I'm a INFJ - "Author". Strong drive and enjoyment to help others. Complex personality. 1.5% of total population.


From Wikipedia:
INFJs are conscientious and value-driven. They seek meaning in relationships, ideas, and events, with an eye toward better understanding themselves and others. Using their intuitive skills, they develop a clear vision, which they then execute decisively to better the lives of others. Like their INTJ counterparts, INFJs regard problems as opportunities to design and implement creative solutions.

INFJs are quiet, private individuals who prefer to exercise their influence behind the scenes. Although very independent, INFJs are intensely interested in the well-being of others. INFJs prefer one-on-one relationships to large groups. Sensitive and complex, they are adept at understanding complicated issues and driven to resolve differences in a cooperative and creative manner.

INFJs have a rich, vivid inner life, which they may be reluctant to share with those around them. Nevertheless, they are congenial in their interactions, and perceptive of the emotions of others. Generally well-liked by their peers, they may often be considered close friends and confidants by most other types. However, they are guarded in expressing their own feelings, especially to new people, and so tend to establish close relationships slowly. INFJs tend to be easily hurt, though they may not reveal this except to their closest companions. INFJs may "silently withdraw as a way of setting limits", rather than expressing their wounded feelings—a behavior that may leave others confused and upset.

INFJs tend to be sensitive, quiet leaders with a great depth of personality. They are intricately and deeply woven, mysterious, and highly complex, sometimes puzzling even to themselves. They have an orderly view toward the world, but are internally arranged in a complex way that only they can understand. Abstract in communicating, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. With a natural affinity for art, INFJs tend to be creative and easily inspired. Yet they may also do well in the sciences, aided by their intuition.

Keywords of INFJ (source: similarminds.com)
creative, smart, focus on fantasy more than reality, attracted to sad things, fears doing the wrong thing, observer, avoidant, fears drawing attention to self, anxious, cautious, somewhat easily frightened, easily offended, private, easily hurt, socially uncomfortable, emotionally moody, does not like to be looked at, fearful, perfectionist, can sabotage self, can be wounded at the core, values solitude, guarded, does not like crowds, organized, second guesses self, more likely to support marijuana legalization, focuses on peoples hidden motives, prone to crying, not competitive, prone to feelings of loneliness, not spontaneous, prone to sadness, longs for a stabilizing relationship, fears rejection in relationships, frequently worried, can feel victimized, prone to intimidation, lower energy, strict with self

I think wikipedia's source has been very accurate so far. It's important to discover yourself! Tell me your personality type if you had taken the test!

Thursday, July 29, 2010

Research & Communication Studies

I've been attending my core module RCS for 2 weeks and I've really found interest in it! This module teaches us about communication. To put it simply, it is about communication between people.

Here are some stuff that I feel that it is quite interesting and very true..

Guys are like.. Whereas girls are like..

Guys tend to fall in love quick, like a matchstick – lights up quickly and dies quickly. Girls on the other hand, takes longer time to fall in love. They need lots of fanning until they are very hot, like charcoals – takes a long time to heat up and light up.

When a guy asks a girl what did she eat, the guy just want to know what did she ate. Nothing more, nothing less. When a girl asks a guy what did he eat, the girl actually wants to know more than what did he ate!

Quite true to a certain extent! Isn't it?

But personally, I think that I'm more like a charcoal and I would want to know more than what did she ate.

Heres another interesting thing to think about..
If you wake up with a positive mindset and smiling till 10am, you'll be happy for the rest of the day!

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Day 14 - A letter to someone you’ve drifted away from

Dear Grandma,

I remember the days that you’ve taken care of me when I was young. I remember the days that you came all the way from Kim Keat to Potong Pasir just to fetch me back from Kindergarden. I remember the days that you made Peng Kuehs and Ang Ku Kuehs and walked all the way to my house just to give them to me. I will always remember your love for me. You are the most loving grandmother anyone would ever meet. Your love, kindness, graciousness and sacrifice is something that I would want to have. I will take the love you have for me and place it onto the people around me and especially for my own kids in the future. I hope that you’ll have a long life and be happy for the rest of it.

Love,
阿豪

PS: I need someone to translate this letter into Teochew, anyone?

Day 13 - A letter to someone I wish could forgive me

Yet again, I do not have any specific person to write to. I might have done someone wrong at any point and I do expect people to forgive. I apologize to anyone out there that holds a grudge against me. I may have done something insensitive. That is my nature. Sometimes I’d just miss your point. I’m sorry for my imperfections. But I do hope that whoever you are, is willing to release that grudge. It is never healthy to hate someone for a long run. I do understand that you may not forget what I’ve done. Take everything as a test of patience and maturity.

Day 12 - A letter to someone who caused me a lot of pain

There are many people that caused me a lot of pain. But I choose to forgive but of course I’ll never forget. I’ll take them as someone who’ve taught me a lesson. Forgiveness must always be the first thing to do when someone caused you to hurt. Always look on the bright side of life! When people slaps you on the left cheek, allow that person to slap you on the right. This is not stupidity. It is called showing mercy while still being righteous.

Monday, July 26, 2010

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Look ahead.
Endure hardships.
Be a blessing.
Smile.

Day 11 - A letter to a deceased person you wish you could talk to

Dear Michael,

Hi MJ! My name is Edwin. Yes, I’m one of your fan among the millions. I always wanted to just hang out with you and listen to your perspective of life as a true artist. You are definitely the world’s best entertainer that anyone could’ve seen in the next few hundred years. I would want to know how did your music and dance come about. The little details, your meticulous character, the magic behind your creation. Of course, you’ll say it’s a gift from God but I would really want to see the master at work. But of course, if I were to be able to meet you at any point, I would not just want to listen and to know about your career. I want to know your about your philosophy in life. What makes life interesting. You’d say, “it’s all for love.” Well, every fan would want to meet you face to face, trying to be your friend. Ever since you passed on, I always felt that it is a waste. The world has lost a true entertainment genius. I’m looking forward to the day we might meet!

Sincerely,
Edwin.

Day 10 - A letter to someone I don’t talk much to

Hmm come to think of it, I don’t have any specific person to write to.

Dear friend,

Hi! This is a letter to all my friends. We may know each other but we haven’t talked for a long time. I want to say from the bottom of my heart, I do still take you as a friend of mine and I love you. I always believed that it is never a coincidence that we met and know each other. So I want to say, I’m always open to meet up to chat or catch up. I do care for you. I’m looking forward to meet you again!

Sincerely,
Edwin.

Day 9 - A letter to someone I wish I could meet

Dear God,

Hi almighty! This is a letter to you from my heart. I would wish to meet you someday maybe not so soon yet ya know.. I just want to sit down on a bench with you in front of the sea shore. And listen to you. I want to listen to your creative ideas about this world that you’ve created. I want to listen to your point of view about my life. I want to listen to the good and the bad things, everything. I think it would be an honor to meet you and to even have a chat. I’ll be looking forward to such a day if it is possible.

With everlasting love,
Edwin

Day 7 - A letter to my ex

I do not have any ex so, there’s no one to write to. I wouldn’t wish to even have any exs in the future.

Monday, July 19, 2010

Day 6 – A letter to a stranger

Dear reader,

Hello. My name is Edwin. And I am born in the year 1990, the 8th of June. I am a introvert which is why I became an addicted gamer when I was in secondary school. In my early teenage years, I do not have much friends at all let alone to have someone to talk my feelings and thoughts to. My family weren't close at all. My parents use to quarrel all the time. Words of affirmation, hugs, gift giving, acts of service, quality time was not present in my family at all. Often, I would always be restricted to stay at home all the time because I wasn't allowed to go out at all. There is no love in the family at all. The closest family member I got is actually my brother. He's the only person in the family that I'm close with. But still, I still find myself empty. Most of the time I thought to myself, why am I in this world for? What is the purpose? Why am I in a family that has no love, faith and hope at all?

My school is an anglican school and that kinda led me to think that there is definitely a God up there that is watching over us. Sometimes I prayed secretly even though I wasn't a believer back then. My Mum is a staunch buddhist and I was always forced to go to the temple all the time. One day I had a chance to go for cellgroup and church. That was the day that my life changed.

My questions and prayers were answered. Why am I here for? My question became Who am I here for. What is my purpose? I want to help as many people as possible. I'm a introverted geek, skinny, weak, nerd. I did not become successful overnight and I'm not very successful and I can't say I've arrived. What I'm gonna say is that if I've never come to know that God exists, God is for me, God has a purpose and destiny for me, I'd still be imprisoned as someone that has no self-esteem at all, someone that doesn't have any aim in life.

I'm not successful yet. I'm not rich yet. I'm not the greatest and I am just a normal human being. But I know and I believe that God has a greater purpose and destiny for me. Likewise, I am not here to preach about religion but I hope that whoever that reads this, will know that there is always hope in life. Your life may look so sour and bitter. You see so many problems around you and you feel that your life is meaningless and empty. But always remember, there IS a God that knows all of you – your sadness, your problems, your tears, your emptiness, your longing for love.

Let me say this to you, whoever you are, from the bottom of my heart, I love you. Never give up in life. You are breathing for a reason and look for the reason. And maybe someday, you are up on your feet again, let me know.

Remember, love motivates. Let love be your motivation. Love the people around you.

Love,
Edwin.

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Day 5 – A letter to my dreams

Dear dreams,

Thank God I have dreams! That’s what life is all about isn’t it? Man has to dream of their own future and work on it. I have so many dreams. I dream that one day I’ll be in the mission field, traveling around for mission trips - praying for others, laying hands on others, preaching, etc. I dream that one day I’ll be a good designer that is able to design things that will be mind blowing. I dream that one day I could be an astronaut. I dream that one day I’ll have my own family, having a family outing happily with wife and kids. I dream that one day my family will be saved. I dream that one day I’ll be someone who will be known to be generous, helpful, loving, godly, pure, spiritual and wise. I dream to be a leader. But most of all I dream that one day when I see Jesus Christ face to face, He’ll say “well done, my good and faithful servant”. I want to fight the good fight and keep the faith. Thank God for dreams for me to work on!

Sincerely,
Edwin.

Day 4 – A letter to my brother

Dear Jun Xiang,

You lazy, idiotic, lame, crappy, funny, crazy, moronic brother! I want to say I love you from the bottom of my heart! Fear not when you encounter bullies or situations where you think you can’t overcome. I’ll definitely be there for you. Sometimes I do wish to just hangout with you alone and have some good quality time together. You know, we don’t have a lifetime together. One day you’ll have to separate with me. One day you’ll have your own family and career to take care of. I believe that it is our destiny to be born as brothers! I look forward to the day you have your first girlfriend, marriage, kids, successful career and best of all, being a great dad. I’ll always remember the times we all had together. God bless.

Your loving brother,
Edwin.

Day 3 – A letter to my family

Dear Family,

I remember the times when our family goes out on a trip together. I remember how close we all were. I remember when Jun Xiang and I were still very young and the both of you brought us out to play. I love the times when we were all in the car enjoying a car wash from the inside. We all laughed, smiled and hugged. The reason why I said all these in the past tense it’s because they are not happening anymore. Why? Is it because Xiang and I are too old? Let me tell you this, we are never too old not to be loved and hugged. I miss the times when we were a happy family. I miss the old us. It’s as if the both of you had died. Other than providing us financially, you have not provided us emotionally and mentally. When I look at the old photos, a feeling of sadness and nostalgia fills my heart. I swear that when I have my own family in the future, I’ll definitely not do what you have done. I am not only not my Father but my Mother too. I look forward to the day when we all can reconcile again. May God be with this family.

Yours truly,
Edwin

Day 1 – A letter to my bestfriend

Dear (you know who you are),

Thank you so much for being someone close to me even though at times I do feel stupid telling you every single thing! But I do love it when I have someone to pour my thoughts out to! I do hope I can be your listening ear forever. I wanna say, you can always call or text me ANY time! Just call my name and I’ll be there. Remember that when you get married you have to, HAVE TO invite me. You are someone very special to me! Once again thank you so much. God bless :)

With love,
Edwin

Saturday, July 17, 2010

30 Letters Challenge

You can either send it to them (anonymously or with your name) or keep them to yourself. On this day you write a letter to: 
Day 1 — Your Best Friend
Day 2 — Your Crush 
Day 3 — Your parents
Day 4 —Your sibling (or closest relative)
Day 5 — Your dreams
Day 6 — A stranger
Day 7 — Your Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend/love/crush
Day 8 — Your favorite internet friend
Day 9 — Someone you wish you could meet
Day 10 — Someone you don’t talk to as much as you’d like to
Day 11 — A Deceased person you wish you could talk to
Day 12 — The person you hate most/caused you a lot of pain
Day 13 — Someone you wish could forgive you
Day 14 — Someone you’ve drifted away from
Day 15 — The person you miss the most
Day 16 — Someone that’s not in your state/country
Day 17 — Someone from your childhood
Day 18 — The person that you wish you could be
Day 19 — Someone that pesters your mind—good or bad
Day 20 — The one that broke your heart the hardest
Day 21 — Someone you judged by their first impression
Day 22 — Someone you want to give a second chance to
Day 23 — The last person you kissed
Day 24 — The person that gave you your favorite memory
Day 25 — The person you know that is going through the worst of times
Day 26 — The last person you made a pinky promise to
Day 27 — The friendliest person you knew for only one day
Day 28 — Someone that changed your life
Day 29 — The person that you want tell everything to, but too afraid to
Day 30 — Your reflection in the mirror

Friday, July 16, 2010

Footprints in the sand.


One Night a man had a dream. He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene, he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand; one belonged to him and the other to the Lord.

When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of his life there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in his life.

This really bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it. "Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you you'd walk with me all the way, but I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life, there is only one set of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed you most you would leave me." The Lord replied, "My precious, precious child, I love you and would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you."

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Love and Fear

I think it is very important to let people know that they are loved. Be it by gift giving, affirmation, touch, quality time and acts of service. It is important to show love, to give out love, to really make it our motivation. I think it is pretty fine to give hugs and say "I love you" or even say "I thought of you" to a friend or a family. It does not even need to be in a romantic relationship!

But at the end of the day, it boils down to whether we want to step out to show it. Because everyone has their fears in them. The fear of rejection. The fear of not being loved. The fear of being lonely. Which is the reason people hide into the shadows, getting drowned into their own sorrows and fears.